Helping Hands

Helping hands make lighter work. With all the effort that Abigail and Heather are going through to keep Teddy safe and growing, our two moms are going to need the love, help, and support of their family, friends, and extended network of supporters. If you have an interest in helping, please read about the types of help available. We’re trying to coordinate coverage of care, so please help us by leaving a comment about the type of help you’re willing to do.

First off …

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Teddy is snug as a bug in a rug in his incubator.

What help does Teddy need?

This is the biggest question we get, and right now, the answer is that Teddy is being best helped by the fine doctors and nurses and support staff in the NICU. His incubator is an external womb, and it is providing him with everything he needs. For the next few months, the only thing he will be wearing is a diaper. The incubator is kept at the optimal temperature, so he won’t be cold and he doesn’t need any clothes. The hospital staff use their own swaddling blankets that are thin enough that they can monitor his vitals through. They are watching him very carefully, and all of his needs are being met. So for now, the biggest needs that Teddy has are being taken care of by the NICU and his moms.

That will change once he’s released, but that won’t be for about another four months, so we’ll get to that a bit later …

Speaking of his moms …

The biggest help anyone can be right now is helping out Abigail and Heather. Because Teddy will be in the NICU for a few months, both moms will be there regularly to provide emotional support and physical comfort during hands-on time. And they both have full time jobs. And need to run a household. And want to keep everyone in the loop and up to date. And, and, and …

It’s a lot of work. So, we’ve made a list of the most common ways new parents are helped in this situation. A lot of these ways are in progress and under construction, so please bear with us. And if you’ve got an idea, please get in touch with the right coordinating villager so that we can add it.

Help Wanted

Take Them a Meal: This is a web site is “an online tool for coordinating the delivery of meals to loved ones.” It uses a simple calendaring system to make sure that people can coordinate easily and effectively. And once you sign up, it’ll notify you that it’s your time.

It’s also great for people who want to help but don’t live near by. You can purchase a meal to be delivered to the house on the day that you select. You can, of course, select another provider like Magic Kitchen orĀ  Send a Meal — just make sure to mark it on the main calendar so that we don’t have multiple meals show up on the same day. (Though Tucker may appreciate this!)

A final note: Abigail and Heather like Mexican, Italian, pizza, plain (chicken and veggies), pho, ramen, etc. They’re pretty much omnivores. They don’t like olives, though. And they’re not really fish eaters. Oh, and no peanuts. Please.

Dog Walking: Tucker currently has a wonderful friend who takes him and his doggy BFF Marley on long walks. They go on a daily basis. There may come a time when schedules chang, and when that happens, we’ll be hiring their regular dog walker, Greda, to come by on a regular basis to make sure that Tucker is well cared for. If anyone nearby wants to help walk Tucker, let us know. If you’re not nearby and want to help, please consider donating to the Tucker fund.

Maid for a Cause: Heather and Abigail are spending about 14 hours at the NICU. There is little, if any, time to keep up with the day to day responsibilities, but they make it happen. To help take a few of the burdens off them, consider helping out by donating to the maid service they have. Maid for a Cause’s maids are thorough, friendly, and Tucker friendly. They come every other week. We’d like to keep it going, so please consider helping.

Care Packages: Everyone deserves a little pampering — especially our hard-working moms. If you’d like to make a care package and send a little something their way, consider sending little treats, scented candles, home spa items, books, or DVDs. Anything to help them relax a little … Just as soon as they get a moment to themselves.

Cards: Things can feel overwhelming at time, so little “pick me up” messages are always appreciated. And they last longer than flowers.